THE REVOLUTION OF LOVE WILL NOT BE TELEVISED. IT WIL BE FELT.
LOVE IS A CHOICE . AND IT’S FUTURE IS BEING WRITTEN BY US IN THIS PRESENT MOMENT.
BRAVE BELOVEDS ALCHEMISING CONFLICT IN TO SPIRITUAL GOLD. BREWING A KIND OF LOVE THAT SETS EVERYONE FREE. TRUE LOVES WHO REFUSE TO SKIP A STEP.
IT IS THE CHILDREN OF THE FUTURE. BORN & RAISED INTO HOUSEHOLDS FREE FROM FEAR & FULL OF RADICAL HOPE.
IT IS IN THE OPEN HEART + SOFT BELLY OF EVERY SINGLE LOVER WHO KNOWS; AWAKE IN LOVE . TOGETHER IN THE MYSTERY.
ENTER, UNITY…
FEBRUARY 2ND ——— MARCH 22ND
WELCOME TO UNITY
SEVEN WEEKS OF RENEGADE RELATIONSHIP INVESTIGATION, CONSCIOUS COMMUNICATION & SOMATIC TANTRIC SCIENCES FOR BOTH INDIVIDUALS AND FOR COUPLES. FOR ALL RELATING STYLES & LEVELS.
—a healing convergence for men and women to explore the technology of using relationship as a means of liberating the heart.
UNITY IS AN OPPORTUNITY TO UNSABOTAGE LOVE & BECOME OBEDIENT TO OUR TRUE NATURE, THROUGH & WITH RELATIONSHIPS.
Unity is a seven week community-focussed inquiry to entrain modern Love and its many forms. as we learn to embody a way of loving where freedom can be found within commitment to our and the truth. During our seven weeks together we will explore somatic tantra & conscious communication tools along with progressive relationship philosophies - listening to & honouring what the moment is asking for us right now.
Unity is a modern-love laboratory for engineering a kind of love that inhabits both sex and spirit; fire and water; masculine and feminine; authenticity and belonging; freedom and devotion; for unity within and without.
How we love is changing.
The architecture of relationships is changing too.
If you’re in a relationship right now - you have two choices when faced with love:
Bloom & step in to the fire of the heart or burn & lose yourself entirely
which one will you choose?
To bloom is to go beyond vulnerability and to stay with the trouble
& the trouble is; if you turn away you miss the real miracle of true love.
because Love will demand that you refuse to turn away from fire of truth.
It will ask you to become a modern Lover.
A MODERN LOVER IS READY TO BE REAL INSTEAD OF BEING ‘RIGHT’
A modern Lover is promiscuous with truth and makes love to the nuances
A modern lover goes way beyond right and wrong, masculine and feminine, monogamous and polyamorous and in to the wild space of authenticity.
A modern Lover lets love be both a crucible and a sanctuary; to be both challenged and supported.
A modern lover makes love to tension and embraces the hell out of the gift of conflict.
A modern Lover is unafraid of their wants and is unafraid of owning them too.
A modern Lover stretches their heart wide open and loves training it into even more freedom.
A modern Lover is exquisitely sensitive and loves it.
A modern Lover is strong enough to be radically soft.
there’s a revolution happening ;
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MANIFESTING LOVE= EASY. STAYING IN LOVE = NOT SO EASY.
YOU FALL IN LOVE & THEN YOU LOVE TO SABOTAGE
I’M THE ONLY ONE DOING THE WORK
“TOO MUCH-NESS”
THE SAFETY YOU NEED V’S THE MIND-BLOWING SEX YOU CRAVE
THROBBING ACHE TO BE MET & HELD. FINALLY.
IT’S NEVER ENOUGH SO I’LL JUST STOP GIVING
CODEPENDENCY OR LOVE? WHO KNOWS
IF I TAKE MY FREEDOM WILL I RUIN THE TRUST?
WHERE ARE ALL THE CONSCIOUS MEN?
WHERE ARE ALL THE GROUNDED WOMEN?
IF I OWN MY DESIRES I’LL SCARE YOU AWAY
FREEDOM V’S COMMITMENT
POLARITY WORK FEELS PATRIARCHAL A.F.
JEALOUSY TRIGGERS ME & ALSO TURNS ME ON. WHAT’S THAT ABOUT?
NO TIME FOR DRAMA SO LET’S KEEP IT LOVE+LIGHT
SNEAKY WITH THE TRUTH & LEAKY WITH SEXUAL ENERGY
PAST PAINS PROJECTED ON TO PRESENT LOVE-STORIES
CONFLICT IS A DANGER ZONE
CAN WE BE BEST FRIENDS AND HOT LOVERS AT THE SAME TIME?
DOES THIS SOUND FAMILIAR?
ENTER, UNITY…
a seven week online container that explores the tools to open hearts, communicate consciously and cultivate healing and brave intimate relationships.
THE PROGRAM
4 MODULES | 4 RELATING PHASES | 4 DEGREES OF CONSCIOUSNESS
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Nº 1: INNER UNION
1ST PHASE OF CONSCIOUSNESS
INTIMACY.
PRESENCE : HEART
🔧 one-body somatics for internal unificiation of masculine+feminine.
🔧 two-body practices for cultivating resonance.
🔧 skilful communication for fostering intimacy and safety.
If what we want to curate are modern relationships that stand to act as both a crucible and a sanctuary; a catalyst and safe space for our sexual and spiritual growth - we need to lay a solid foundation within and without.
Go beyond fears of vulnerability and show up with an unguarded heart and open body. When we learn what it actually means to be open-hearted, firstly with ourselves and then with others, we unlock new layers intimacy and expand what we ever thought was possible in relationships.
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Nº 2: EROTIC UNION
2ND PHASE OG CONSCIOUSNESS
POLARITY : EROS
🔧 one-body somatics for shame resilience and emotional alchemy
🔧 applied tantric sciences.
🔧 two-body sexual yoga mechanics
🔧 two-body polarity practices
🔧 conscious communication for conflict transformation.
Now that the flame is ignited, you can begin to play with fire and take the sort of risks that create a kind of intimacy that makes love unextinguishable.
Research the practices that pull you out of the gutter of neutrality and into the terrain of fierce, loving truth.
Explore the practices that will ground you during conflict and empower you to regulate your nervous system when things get messy.
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Nº3 : SACRED UNION
THIRD PHASE OF CONSCIOUSNESS.
THE ARCHITECTURE OF NEW ERA RELATING.
🔧 one-body somatics for sovereignty.
🔧 two-body practices for remembering love.
🔧 resources for designing & redefining relationship.
Build a tool box of modern somatic practices that open new doors to your sovereignty and enhance truth in your relationships. Dare to come together in a brave space of designing and redefining the future of your relationships.
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Nº 4 : BEYOND UNION
DEVOTION
CREATE THE VISION + CAST THE PRAYER.
WHAT TO EXPECT?
BRAVE QUESTIONS & EVEN BRAVER RESPONSES : RADICAL COMMUNAL CIRCLES : POETIC INQUIRIES ABOUT MODERN LOVE
-SOLO + PARTNER PRACTICES
-CONSCIOUS COMMUNICATION
-APPLIED TANTRIC SCIENCES
-SOMATIC EMBODIMENT
-CONFLICT TRANSFORMATION
-NERVOUS SYSTEM REGULATION
-SACRED SEXUALITY
-CONTEMPORARY POLARITY AWARENESS
-NEW ERA RELATING PHILOSOPHY
a balanced combination of informative theory
+ experiential practices
Unity is an investigation into intimacy, ‘Into-Me-I-See’
So first of all, let’s acknowledge the anthropological data points of the term ‘ intimacy’ itself. The word Intimacy often gets conflated with sexuality. When in fact, they are two very nuanced worlds - sexuality without intimacy is simply a physical act, derived of the ingredient of vulnerability - whilst intimacy has a whole erotic current of its own. It sets love on fire. It’s our ability to stoke and bear that fire that counts.
Intimacy is the agility and willingness to reveal our reality - our full self - uncurated, to the other. Intimacy is what happens when we refuse to separate another from our heart, by allowing them in instead. Intimacy is an activism towards the brave world that our hearts deeply feel is available to us - when we take the leap & choose to show ourselves.
If we haven’t curated this unity within, if we don’t have that settled and grounded heart - we bring discord into all of our otherwise intimate encounters. Not only do we cock-block love - we unnecessarily burn bridges with our untamed fire.
This is when we sabotage love.
Unity is a space to unsabotage love.
Unity is an exploration of love as a somatic experience
The degree of love you can feel is a direct result of the resilience of your nervous system.
The simple truth is this:
Love itself is a practice and your heart is a muscle that can be trained to remain open.
No matter what life throws at you. Your heart, even at its most complex & traumatised state, is. Just. Another. Muscle in your body.
It is surrounded by a trillion nerve endings and fascia, along with water - which all carry information, hormones & can sustain both expansion & contraction - resulting in both physical and emotional symptoms. These, though they feel very real, are actually remarkably simple consequences of certain physical & hormonal blockages and imbalances.
We can physically stretch the heart and train it to hold more. We can help our blessed beating heart to know the ripe reward of safety and love, simply with an asana and the power of breath.
Unity will explore solo and partner applied tantric sciences to open the heart, soften the mind and create a possibility for empathic, synchronistic healing.
This is how we unsabotage love within and without.
Unity is a path to finding freedom through commitment and devotion to the moment.
We live in a time of endless options and instant gratification. Dating apps are a catalogue of potential connections while social media fuels our fear of missing out. This type of bite-size culture fosters fear around fully immersing ourselves into a relationship.
The choice to commit is harder to make than ever. We don’t know how to commit and we know even less about owning our desires and giving each other freedom to be sexually sovereign.
Modern love landscapes hold this knowing; it is less about what is right and wrong and is far more about what the moment is asking for us as lovers. Modern love is unity with ourselves, our lover and the moment - that’s what it means to find freedom within love.
What if modern Love was the portal to the liberation that you seek? What if a devotional yet undogmatic relationship could be your access point to freedom and sexual sovereignty? What if monogamy can feel like a polyamorous feast?
Devotion and Commitment can become ingredients towards your freedom. With the right tools, Commitment can create Freedom. When we’ve cultivated an inner freedom and inner commitment we can begin to experience this in our relationships.
WHO THIS IS FOR…
MODERN LOVERS & SINGLE MUSES OF ALL SEXUAL & RELATIONAL ORIENTATION.
RELATIONSHIP GEEKS WHO LOVE TO RESEARCH & COLLECT DATA.
ANYONE COMMITTED TO DOING THE INTEGRATION WORK OF EMBODIMENT & SHADOW-WORK.
SINGLE FOLKS WISHING TO OPEN AND HEAL THEIR HEART BEFORE COMING INTO SACRED UNION.
PARTNERED FOLKS WISHING TO EXPERIENCE MORE SPONTANEITY & SAFETY, MORE HARMONY & FIRE.
ANYONE CURIOUS TO GO DEEP WORK WITH BOTH MEN & WOMEN TOGETHER IN ONE SHARED, INTENTIONAL SPACE.
PEOPLE WHO HAVE FALLEN OUT OF LOVE & ARE WILLING TO DO THE WORK OF BRINGING THEMSELVES BACK IN TO LOVE.
YOU ARE NOT WILLING TO PUT THE WORK IN TO IMPROVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP TO YOURSELF & OTHERS. you will be asked to show up for your part in the connection to the space and to your partner if you’re joining with an intimate other.
YOU ALIGN WITH A CULTURE OF FIXING, SHAMING, BLAMING & CONTROLLING. this is a brave-space of vulnerability and shadow work.
YOU BLOCK & CANCEL PEOPLE WHO SHOW YOU YOUR SHADOWS. it is vital that you are able to take responsibility & own your stuff.
YOU ARE NOT CURIOUS TO EXPAND YOUR EROTIC VOCABULARY. you might be pushed into new areas of language in order to create new levels of intimacy.
YOU ARE UNWILLING TO ENGAGE IN CHALLENGING DISCOURSE ABOUT SEX, LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS. don’t expect to be comfortable 100% of the time.
YOU’RE ONLY JOINING BECAUSE YOUR PARTNER TOLD YOU TO. this is a two way street, you must be motivated to this work on an individual level.
YOU HAVE NO EXPERIENCE OR INTEREST IN MEDITATION AND EMBODIMENT. we will go into somatic tantric practices which will require some experience cultivating mindfulness & some interest in integrating these practices into your daily life.
THIS IS NOT FOR YOU, IF…
we meet once a week in session to practice the theory - and go in to a ‘dojo’ to explore the application of the sciences; to honour the alpha & omega sides of the brain mutually - balancing the theory with the experiential aspects of the tools explored each week.
EXPECT: informative lecture & group, hot-seat style coaching followed by embodiment.
The practices explored will be unique each week but will all carry the same thread - non-sexual conscious communication & somatic embodiment shared between two-bodies.
THE SCHEDULE
all times are in CET time zone.
At the end of each session we will integrate the teachings with a sharing circle. To further integrate the work, you will receive additional worksheets + recorded resources in your library.
FOR MODERN LOVERS
FOR MODERN LOVERS
UNITY VOL II SINGLE ACCESS
SOLO TICKET
DUO ACCESS | PARTNER TICKET FOR 2X PPL
DUO TICKET
✺ FAQ ✺
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yes ofc we’d love to have you along if you are single or partnered.
this is a course designed to provide
tools that will support you in your own
solo path of intimacy.
However; i will offer
non sexual partner exercises on the sunday that you can practice with a friend or lover in your own space, or with a person in my team via a breakout room if you turn up without a partner to go into the practice with.
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ALL TIMES ARE CET. all calls are 2.5hrs long.
ALL CALLS WILL BE RECORDED
FRIDAY 2.02 : 20H OPENING CALL
THURSDAY 8.02 : 20H
WEDNESDAY 14.02: 20H LOVE DAY WORKSHOP *bonus
THURSDAY 15.02: 20H
THURSDAY 22.02 : 20H
THURSDAY 29.02: 20H
THURSDAY 07.03 : 20H
THURSDAY 14.03 : 20H
FRIDAY 22.03 : 20H
calls are 1.5-2hrs in length.
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there is no need to be religious or spiritual to be interested in the work of conscious relationship. the way that i see it is; whether you come to the yoga mat this workshop with the desire to get abs or enlightenment it matters not. it’s not about the why, it’s about the how.
we have no requirements for you to already engage with the sacred and spirit-centred aspects of this work; all we ask is that you bring your full self to the process - with an open mind and curiosity to learn new ways of loving.
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honestly; this proccess is for all kinds of levels - although it is recommended that you have some prior experience with mindfulness or embodiment practices in order to be able to show up to the work in an easeful way.
we will go as deep as your own system will let you. and as deep as your partner that you practice with will allow the work to go.
our only ask is: show up to the work. be present. keep showing up. and stay open. the rest is a bonus, really.
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yes, all sessions will be recorded and will be available to download and keep after the course is over.
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we will have a community discord group - where all of our integration happens. i will also provide worksheets & recorded practices so you can take yourself deeper in to the work in a self-paced way - if thats your vibe.
otherwise - i am available for discounted 1-1 private sessions during the course as part of being in the program and afterwards for any additional support or resources you may require
IMAGINE THIS..
Imagine what the world would look like if men and women, mothers and fathers learned to live from their hearts and had the tools to use their relationship as a catalyst for Spiritual growth?
What would motherhood look like?
What would fatherhood look like?
What would childhood look like?
As the world becomes more polarised, how can we nurture our relationships to create a foundation of love for the children of the next generation to come? How can we create a climate where we have learnt to love beyond fear?
Imagine a world where women are anchored in their heart, compassionate, sovereign and free from codependency. Imagine what could happen when women are so deeply connected to their feelings and are safe enough to feel their full spectrum of emotions? Imagine mothers who don’t hold onto resentment and reach burn out?
Imagine a world where men trust themselves and their desires. Where men are deeply at ease in their sexuality that they can fully offer their wild erotic gifts to their lovers? What could happen when men own their desires without shame? When men learn how to navigate freedom in their sexuality and relationships with respect and integrity?
Imagine a world where men and women are better allies, better parents and better lovers. Where relationships are an echo of the world we wish to cultivate within ourselves and the world itself.
This is possible with integrated work of men and women and when partners of any orientation work to ground their relationship in conscious communication and practices of deep intimacy.
“the role of the artist is exactly the same as the role of the lover.
if i love you, i have to make you conscious of the things you don't see.
- James Baldwin.
MY BIGGER ‘WHY’ FOR THIS WORK
—a note from your space-holder; melissa.
i do not claim to know more than you about love. i am a single, devotional polyamorist - “light on the poly, heavy on the amore” - my whole life has revolved around love; from being seven years old and re-writing my mother’s post-it-notes to my dad to bring in more love, to creating tantric temple-spaces for bodies to feel free in, to helping women to forgive the masculine, root in forgiveness and find love within themselves to ultimately share it in the form of heart-drenched leadership.
I LIVE FOR LOVE.
simultaneously, i ache for truth. i am in service to people experiencing both freedom and belonging. Love and Truth.
I have known the beauty of what it means to love many people at a time; had multiple committed partnerships. successfully and not so successfully. i have hurt others and myself. i have loved well. i have loved too little. i have loved too much. i have said the wrong thing - a lot. i have no real clue what i’m doing and that’s the very reason why i have devoted the last years of my life to studying the art of the human heart. it is less about getting it ‘right’ and it is far more about finding more of yourself through and with it. i love to work with humanness, not against it.
I come humbly; trusting that if i ache for this space - to have these conversations about love, sex and relating - perhaps you do too.
if so - please feel warmly welcome here. i look forward to meeting you there.
awake. in love. together, in truth.
xo
THE PLAYLIST
get in the mood for it;
because nobody fell in love without music.